You sacrifice a lot of your own time to be a mom. If your kids are young and still rely on you a lot, you probably feel over-touched, overstimulated, and mentally drained by the end of the day.
I knew I was an introvert, but it wasn’t until someone pointed out that being an introvert still applies to being a mom- only you don’t get that same alone time it takes to recharge- that I realized I needed to work on my boundaries as a mom the same way I do with other areas of my life!
Did a lightbulb just go off in your head?
Especially if you’re an introverted people-pleaser like me, it takes a different kind of recharge to take care of yourself.
I’ve come to realise it’s not usual the things cited to moms (I know you know what I’m talking about, we see it everywhere) but it’s the individual things that light your soul on fire. That get you all fired up. Have you ever stayed up too late at night researching something you’re interested in or a hobby you don’t get time to do during the day, and then you’re so awake you can’t fall asleep?
Take note of those things! Those are clues!
If you’re not getting those things- the things you value- into your everyday life, then you will lack energy. You’ll feel depleted because your values aren’t lining up with what your life actually looks like.
Get more of those things into your life and you’ll find you have more energy by default!
The best place to start is by writing down what your 3 top values for your life are. In your ideal life, what 3 things would you be doing every single day? Adventure, laughing, creating art, dancing? The best part is you can do at least 1 or 2 of the 3 things WITH people (or your kids) and they will still energize you!
They don’t have to be big things or take a lot of time. Eventually it’ll be so natural getting them into every day that it becomes a habit and you don’t have to mentally make the effort or feel like you need to “check it off” the list.
